Has A Difficult Childhood Or Relationship Had A Negative Impact On Your Life?
Do you feel distrustful or anxious about interacting with people because of poor experiences you’ve had in the past? Do you have trouble opening up emotionally to others? Perhaps you are concerned about potentially being hurt again.
It could be that you experienced childhood difficulty that has continued to negatively affect your adult life. Did your parents fail to provide the emotional support you needed during crucial times? Did they physically or verbally tear you down? Perhaps you developed a variety of coping mechanisms that are now getting in the way of everyday life.
Or maybe you were in unhealthy relationships. It could be that the individual you were involved with manipulated you into doing things you didn’t want. Or, perhaps they harmed you physically or emotionally, and now you struggle with the idea of entering another relationship.
Because of these experiences, you might struggle with depression and anxiety. You might act more defensively and have trouble connecting with others, including friends and family. It’s possible you feel guilty about what happened or even blame yourself. Maybe you feel resentment that doesn't always make sense to you.
And you know that you can’t go on living like this. You’d probably like to finally gain a sense of normalcy and be able to connect to others.
Many People Struggle With The Aftereffects Of Abuse And Neglect
A surprisingly large amount of people have experienced some form of abuse. More than 3.6 million child abuse cases are reported a year, and over 12 million men and women face some form of abuse in the same time period. These cases can often result in difficulties emotionally, mentally, physically and socially.
When these abuse situations occur, the brain takes action. It alters the way we perceive the world to try and make things more manageable. For example, if a parent reacts with anger to a need, a child can learn not to express that need. He or she may even learn not to expect support or relief from others. Beliefs like these, while adaptive for the time, become harmful and limiting later on since all later interactions are filtered through them.
Whether or not we received proper care doesn’t depend on how well-meaning those who took care of us were. For example, a parent may have been unable to attend to a child’s distresses adequately due to illness or other preoccupations.
Additionally, people can experience abuse or neglect in relationships starting in adulthood. Sometimes individuals can be tricked by an individual who, consciously or otherwise, relied on manipulation and deceit to maintain the relationship.
Regardless of the reason behind the abuse or neglect, these experiences integrate into how someone sees themselves, others, and the world. These influences can continue to shape and distort experiences long after the threat is gone.
This happens because our brains are trying to protect us. Survival is more important to the primitive brain than anything else. Unfortunately, these adaptations don’t update with the changing times, so we end up reacting to threats that no longer exist.
Relationships are difficult because of how distorted your vision of yourself and others can become. An awful lot of time is spent "in the head" trying to analyze everything and figure it all out. This mentality can make it hard to trust yourself unless you work out all the different outcomes.
When dealing with these difficult situations, it can sometimes feel impossible to change. It can even begin to feel normal. However, you don’t have to continue living with the negative effects of an abusive relationship or childhood. You can overcome and live a more rewarding and content life.
Rapid Resolution Therapy® Can Help You Heal From Abuse And Neglect
My expertise is in helping people experience complete and lasting elimination of these learned responses, both emotional and behavioral. Rapid Resolution Therapy® (RRT) uses the brain's natural learning processes to create new reactions to situations that once caused you pain. Old, unwanted adaptations become irrelevant and disappear, along with difficult emotions such as shame, guilt, self-loathing, anxiety and depression. Problematic responses stop happening as neural pathways are written over, and you can respond with much more clarity, accuracy and ease, and receive help for abuse.
Talk therapy and other more traditional approaches require you to examine and analyze yourself in terms of what wrong with you think, say and do. None of that is encouraged in RRT. All you have to do is provide me with a general idea of what has been going on for you. Once I know the basics, the rest of the healing process lies with me; you don’t have to relive any of the painful experiences you’ve gone through.
In a session, you will encounter various activities, from elements of mindfulness, meditation and guided imagery to therapeutic storytelling, movement or touch. Each session is tailored to your particular situation and need, and designed to make significant impact. These improvements are lasting and are experienced as automatic and natural. I have been told that the experiences can be profound and surprising, and that the previous distress is inaccessible.
Suffering from abuse and neglect can be incredibly difficult. However, you don’t have to go through this alone. With the aid of therapy, you can finally break free of their grip.
Sounds Good But You Have More Questions
What If It Some Big Scary Stuff Comes Flooding Back?
Preventing you from having to re-experience painful, terrifying events is one of the distinctions of my approach. Reliving traumatic events is neither necessary nor beneficial. RRT works in such a way that all you have to do is give me the very basics of the situation, without diving into the events themselves.
What If My Problems Are Too Big? Or Too Small?
No problem is too big or too small. Even seemingly unimportant events can have a significant effect on your life. If you've been experiencing any form of self-deprecation you'll experience relief through therapy.
What If I Don't Remember What Happened?
That's OK, and quite common. Often I find that clients have trouble either knowing what happened or putting into words what's been bothering them. Neither of these pose any problem at all, as remembering what happened is not required for RRT to be effective.
You Can Overcome Abuse And Neglect
Whether you'd like to schedule an appointment or discuss questions you may have, it would be my pleasure to hear from you. You can call me at (954) 951-8295. With my help, you can overcome abuse and experience the healing you desire.
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