Rape. Sexual Assault. Childhood Molestation. Can You Get Over It?
You feel damaged. The helplessness. Disgust. Anger. Shame. Guilt.
It all feels so big and terrifying and overwhelming. This colors your every day, whether up front and center, or running in continual loop in the background.
It affects relationships. It's hard to trust. You find yourself on the defensive, jumpy.
Getting out of bed can be difficult. It seeps into your dreams and wakes you out of your sleep. Nightmares. Flashbacks. Frightening thoughts.
If only you could feel OK.
Trauma is bad enough, but when its at the hands of somebody else it feels so much like its about you.
Feeling alone and isolated in this.
Which is ironic. Trauma inflicted by others is unbelievably and unfortunately all too common.
You Are Not Alone. Some Staggering Statistics.*
Every 98 seconds an American is sexually assaulted.
Each year there are around 321,500 victims of rape and sexual assault . 30% of graduate students in helping professions are thought to be survivors of sexual trauma. 23 out of 100 women reported sexual assault when in the military. Women aged 15-44 are more at risk from rape and domestic violence than from cancer, car accidents, war and malaria, according to World Bank data.
And its not just women.
1 in 6 men is sexually abused before the age of 18
2.78 million men have been victims of attempted or completed rape.
2 percent of all children experienced sexual assault or sexual abuse during the past year.
4 out of every 10 children say they have experienced a physical assault during the past year, with 1 on 10 receiving an assault-related injury. The rate is nearly 11 percent for girls aged 14 to 17.
Over 10 million Americans have been victims of incest.
These are some staggering statistics. They are also fairly old numbers, and from what we’ve seen from the #MeToo movement, likely way understated. I share them with you so you know - what you’ve gone through, as horrible as terrifying as it’s been - you’re not alone.
The good news is… I know how to get rid of the pain.
What I can do to help.
I wish I could wave a magic wand and make all the above go away. I can’t do that, but I can help. A lot.
I help you get rid of the disturbing effects from experiences you've been through.
What neuroscience has taught us
We heal through experiences.
We’ve been impacted by experiences, and it is through new experiences that how we see ourselves and how we experience the world changes.
Powerful experiences actually rewire the brain, and therapeutic experiences are designed to rewire the brain in such a way that the emotional brain heals. Not only that, the brain’s routine responses are re-patterned so that future responses are more in sync with what is happening, rather than responding to a past event.
I specialize in Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT), which was developed for the purpose of fast and thorough trauma resolution. RRT integrates therapeutic modalities that work together to synergistically create powerful, and transformational healing experiences.
None of these modalities are scary or unfamiliar. Your experience may include mindfulness, therapeutic stories, movement, imagery, play. It’s the focus on results and tailored combinations that make this approach so powerful. The changes that happen are lasting, and experienced as automatic and natural.
What Is Required From You
I do all the work.
Unlike traditional therapeutic approaches, you will not be encouraged to do any self-analysis or introspection. A lot of people who avoid therapy do so because they think it will be difficult and painstaking work. When it comes to interpersonal trauma especially, the last thing people want to do is dig through.
This is not - I repeat - this is not even remotely close to what we’ll do together.
All you have to do is provide me with a general idea of how things have been for you, currently.
After that, we'll collaborate on what it will be like when the pain is gone. I'll probably be able to envision it before you, and more clearly than you, but this is normal and expected. Actually, you seeing or believing it isn’t at all necessary. All that is required is for you to approve of what it is I am seeing. Of course, if you have any objections, we will make sure to make adjustments until we are fully in agreement.
From there, you'll be provided with different experiences that profoundly improve the way you think and feel about yourself and about others.
Sounds Good But, You Still Have Questions
Why Pay Out Of Pocket Instead of Using Insurance?
I know how to get you to where you want to go, and I can get you there fast. Each session will be valuable and beneficial for you - if this is not your experience, I don't want your money. Without the rules and regulations of insurance, I can stand behind my services in this powerful way.
I have a bit more about why I don’t recommend using insurance for mental health if you’re interested, here.
What If It All Comes Flooding Back?
One of the things that I love about RRT is that I can keep that from happening. There is absolutely no reason for you to have to re-experience painful, terrifying events, and to prevent that from happening is a central focus of what I do.
What If My Problems Are Too Big?
This may sound weird, but it has been my experience that the bigger the problem, the more powerful the results.
What If I Don't Remember What Happened?
This is common in my practice, and remembering what happened is not necessary.
You Can Be Free and Clear
If you're interested in scheduling an appointment, or discussing any question you may have, I'd love to hear from you.
photo credit: Photo by Nick Scheerbart on Unsplash.com.
statistics compiled from: US Department of Veteran Affairs - National Center for PTSD, Adams & Riggs, 2008, American Psychological Association, 2/19/14, Rainn.org, JAMA Pediatrics,May 2013.